Questions About Adolescent DBT

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Frequent Questions About Trinitas Adolescent DBT


Q. Do I need to have hope to be in DBT?
A. No. Many people who come to DBT have very little, if any, hope that their suffering can be lessened. We know that it is only with time that your experiences with DBT will help to increase hope. We ask that clients "act opposite" to their limited hope by showing up regularly to sessions, practicing their skills, and allowing the treatment to work! back to top

Q. Is DBT a suicide prevention treatment?
A. No. While the majority of clients who come to DBT have chronic thoughts about committing suicide and may have attempted suicide on multiple occasions, the goal of DBT is not to prevent suicide. The goal is to help clients "build a life worth living" by learning skills, accepting who they are, and changing what they can so that they will no longer want to kill themselves. As such, you and your parents/caregivers hold ultimate responsibility for your/your teen's safety at all times. If you or your parents/caregivers are concerned that you are at risk of killing yourself, you should call 911, a suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255, Mobile Response and Stabilization Services at 1-877-652-7624 (with your parent/guardian), or go to the local emergency room. back to top

Q. Is DBT a trauma treatment?
A. No. The majority of clients who come to DBT have single or multiple traumas. However, in DBT, we believe that if clients do not have the skills to deal effectively in their daily lives, they surely do not have the skills necessary to work through trauma effectively. As a result, trauma treatment is recommended and conducted only after clients complete skills training and are no longer showing self-harm and suicidal behaviors. back to top

Q. Is DBT only for people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?
A. No. While DBT was originally created for individuals with BPD who were chronically suicidal and self-harming, it is now used to treat individuals with multiple diagnoses who have difficulties with emotional dysregulation, distress tolerance, interpersonal relationships and impulsivity. back to top

Q. Will I be encouraged to talk about my past/childhood in DBT?
A. It depends. While early childhood experiences are helpful in the beginning of therapy to fully understand how the biosocial theory applies to you (e.g., invalidating/ineffective environment, biological irregularities), DBT primarily focuses on the present and future. back to top

Q. Can DBT work for me even if nothing else has worked?
A. Definitely! Many clients who come to DBT have had limited success in other therapies. This is usually because the other therapies did not effectively treat the skills deficits that lead to their difficulties. DBT believes that gaining "insight" into the reasons for difficulties/behaviors does not solve the issue. Instead it may be the first step to changing the behaviors. However, insight is not necessarily required to make changes. back to top

Q. I have had family, friends and even therapists tell me that I do not want to get better and/or that I am "lazy." Will I hear those things in DBT?
A. Absolutely not! In multi-family DBT we have the following beliefs/assumptions about everyone who attends the program:

  • Clients are doing the best they can
  • Clients want to improve
  • Clients need to do better, try harder, and be more motivated to change
  • Clients may not have caused all of their own problems but they have to solve them anyway
  • The lives of suicidal, borderline individuals are unbearable as they are currently being lived
  • Clients must learn new behaviors in all relevant contexts
  • Clients cannot fail in therapy
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Q. How fast does DBT work?
A. DBT is a marathon, not a sprint. Changing behaviors takes time and patience. In some ways, we are "re-wiring" the connections in the brain by teaching people to act and think in different ways, which then leads to different outcomes. As DBT therapists, we do not expect to see major, if any, changes, until closer to the end of the treatment cycle. Some clients and families need two cycles of comprehensive DBT in order to see changes, which is understandable given that adult DBT programs are generally a year-long commitment!back to top

Q. Are there rules in DBT?
A. Only one. The only real "rule" in DBT is that if you miss three consecutive individual sessions or three consecutive DBT skills group sessions, you are discharged from the program. This is based on the idea that DBT can only work if a person is coming to treatment. There are other "guidelines" for DBT treatment and for the Trinitas DBT program; however, these are more flexible and violations of them are seen as learning opportunities. back to top

Q. I've been "kicked out" of a lot of programs because of my difficulties. Will you kick me out?
A. The only real way to be "kicked out" is to absence out. Any other issues that come up (e.g., violations of guidelines, suicidal behavior, self-harm behavior, treatment interfering behaviors, etc.) will be worked on with your therapist with the goal of helping you not absence out. Behaviors that occur in group that are destructive or make the environment unsafe for other clients or the leaders may result in your not being allowed back in group until a plan has been created to prevent the behaviors from recurring. As long as that plan is in place without your missing three groups in a row, you will not be discharged. back to top

Q. What is your policy on substance use when in the program?
A. We require that clients be willing to work on reducing and ultimately stopping the use of illegal substances to be in the program. At the same time, depending on clients' presenting problems, substance use may not be the top priority in the beginning of therapy, unless it somehow causes and/or relates to behaviors like suicide and self-harm. Nevertheless, once higher prioritized targets are addressed, clients will be required to agree to work on stopping the substance use if they are to continue in the Adolescent DBT program. This is because we want clients to be active in finding their own "wise mind" and regulating their emotions, something that is nearly impossible when under the influence of substances. back to top

Q. I am not willing to stop my self-harm or suicidal behaviors. Should I come to DBT?
A. Probably not. DBT sees both suicidal and self-harm behaviors as problem solving strategies that are effective in the moment to deal with distress, yet do not help clients in the long-term, and have many consequences that actually lead people to suffer more and feel worse. If a client is not willing to work on replacing these strategies with more effective long-term strategies, DBT sessions would be filled with endless battles because of differing goals. Both the client and the therapist would quickly burn out, making it difficult for therapy to continue. back to top

Q. My family members want me to go to DBT, but I don't want to. Should I come to DBT?
A. Unless you want to be in DBT treatment, it is unlikely to work. Just showing up is not enough. You will be asked to practice skills outside of sessions and if you don't have a little bit of motivation or interest in doing the work, nothing will change. All DBT sessions would then have to focus on why you werenot doing the work, which would lead to battles because of differing goals. Both the client and the therapist would quickly burn out, making it difficult for therapy to continue. back to top

Q. Am I going to have to be in DBT treatment forever?
A. No! DBT is a recovery based model. This means that we will try our hardest to work with you on building a life that does not require you to be in DBT or any other treatment forever. Most clients who graduate from our program go on to live very meaningful lives with much reduced suffering. back to top

Q. What constitutes an absence in DBT?
A. Not showing up to session, cancelling a session, or coming more than 15 minutes late to session. back to top

Q. I've heard that DBT has strict attendance guidelines. What are they?
A. In the Trinitas Adolescent DBT, if you miss three consecutive individual sessions, three consecutive DBT skills group sessions, or four groups all together, you will be discharged from the program. This is based on the idea that DBT can only work if a person is coming to treatment. There are no "excused" absences for things like being in the hospital, going on vacation, or being sick. Ultimately, if a client misses a full month of treatment for any reason, it is clear that the timing just isn't right for them to be in DBT. back to top

Q. How can I be excused for an absence?
A. While there are understandable, justified, and valid reasons for missing a session, there are no excused absences in DBT. back to top

Q, Can I make friends with other clients in your DBT program?
A. Yes. Clients who join DBT often feel relieved by how much they have in common with others in the program. Connecting with others in DBT can help clients practice their skills and feel supported. However, DBT does not allow "private relationships" with other clients, meaning that secretkeeping is not allowed and that interactions can be discussed in individual sessions. Clients are not permitted to talk about suicide, self-harm, or substance use with each other, either in group or outside of the program. back to top

Q. What if I do not like the individual therapist that is assigned to me?
A. You will be assigned a therapist based upon who has an opening for a new client. All members of the DBT team receive supervision and consultation and are capable of providing you the best DBT services. Even if a client does not feel like the assigned therapist is the "best fit" for them, we believe that the therapist can still help the client learn, practice, and generalizeskills because we all work in accordance with the same treatment model. back to top

Q. What if I do not like members of my skills group?
A. Usually clients find at least one person in their skills group who they either donot like or to whom they feel they cannot relate. We see this as a great opportunity for you to learn how to, not only tolerate being around people who you do not like, but also practice observing your own limits and have effective interpersonal interactions. back to top

Q. Can I have family/couples sessions?
A. Family/couples sessions are scheduled on an as-needed basis, based on the following criteria:

  • The client asks for the session because he/she want to discuss something with a parent/caregiver/significant other and would like the individual therapist there as a coach
  • There is a crisis erupting in the family that is getting in the way of progress
  • A family member/significant other is doing something that is reinforcing a behavior that the client and therapist are targeting and the therapist believes that the client has not yet learned the necessary skills to manage the situation on his/her own
  • There is imminent risk to safety and the client has asked for the family to be contacted
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Q. Both my parents/caregivers want to come to skills group, but one of them can't come all the time. Is that okay?
A. Yes! In order to participate in the Adolescent DBT program, at least one parent/caregiver must attend skills group with their teen on a consistent basis. If another parent/caregiver cannot come every week, that's okay, as long as the attending family members keep him/her updated on what is missed. back to top

Q. As a parent/caregiver, can I know what you talk about in sessions with my child/teenager?
A. In Adolescent DBT, we ask that parents/caregivers observe rules of confidentiality by not asking us to provide specific information learned in individual sessions. You, however, are welcome to provide us with information about your child/teenager. Confidentiality will be broken, as by law, if your son/daughter is at imminent risk to himself/herself or others, or reports feeling threatened, so that his/her safety or the safety of others is maintained. back to top

Q. I work/go to school. Can you accommodate my schedule?
A. All of the DBT skills groups are in the evening, in order to best accommodate school and work schedules. Individual sessions are scheduled according to your and your therapist's availability, with every effort made to best accommodate your schedule. If scheduling requires that you miss work/school, we are happy to help you advocate with your school/employer to limit any negative consequences and make up any missed work. back to top

Q. My child/teenager is not attending school. Can we still participate in DBT?
A. Yes. If a goal for you and your family is to attend school, we will work with you and your school to help you achieve this goal. back to top

Q. How much work do I have to put in outside of my sessions?
A. Each week, you will be expected to complete an assignment for the DBT skills group. This usually involves practicing a skill and filling out a short worksheet. Clients complete a daily diary card that they bring to both DBT skills group and individual sessions. At times, homework may also be assigned by your individual therapist if you or he/she believes it will be helpful in reaching your goals. While not required, clients who review what was taught in skills group during the week tend to have more success in DBT. back to top

Q. Can I still see my outside therapist when I join DBT?
A. Unfortunately not. There are several reasons why clients who join DBT at Trinitas must take a break from any other therapists:

  • DBT follows a specific structure and theory. Having an outside therapist who has a different perspective would be confusing for the client because he/she may get very mixed messages and suggestions
  • To know if a particular treatment is helpful, it is best to give the treatment a chance in its most "pure" version. This is similar to a medical doctor whowill start with one research supported medication and add another only when it is clear that the first one is not enough on its own
  • Part of what makes DBT effective for clients is that there is frequent collaboration between skills trainers and individual therapists. The level of necessary collaboration would not be possible with a therapist who was not part of our team
  • Your current therapist may be amazing at helping you with certain issues and you may choose to go back to them after completing the program. However, if you were experiencing the success you were hoping with your current therapist, you probably would not be looking for a comprehensive DBT program.
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Q. Can I still see my outside psychiatrist when I join DBT?
A. Yes. Because any medication treatment is considered "ancillary" treatment to DBT, you may keep seeing your outside psychiatrist. However, there are a few things to consider when doing so:

  • DBT uses a method called "consultation to the client" which means that you will be in charge of discussing any issues that come up with your psychiatrist. Your individual therapist will not be talking to the psychiatrist on your behalf under most circumstances
  • If you do any form of "talk therapy" with your psychiatrist, it will need to stop when you join our DBT program. Appointments with your psychiatrist are to focus only on issues related to medication and medical conditions
  • If, at any point, your individual therapist or the team feel that your psychiatrist is somehow getting in the way of your reaching your goals (much like if a family member, significant other, or friend is believed to be getting in the way), you will be asked to problem solve this issue using your skills so that your progress towards your goals can stay on track
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Frequently Asked Questions About Trinitas DBT

Q. Do you take insurance?
A. At the current time, we take most insurances and Medicaid. back to top

Q. Are there other services that I can be part of while I wait for my DBT screening?
A. If you are seeking treatment right away, an intake will be scheduled and services (e.g., group therapy, individual/family therapy, medication management) will be provided through the Trinitas Child/Adolescent Outpatient Department until there is an opening in the DBT program. Please call 908-994-7223 to schedule an appointment. You can feel free to let the intake clinician know that you are on the wait list for DBT. back to top

Q. Is your program co-ed?
A. Yes. We have both male and female clients and male and female therapists in our program. back to top

Q. What happens after I complete the treatment cycle?
A. Once the cycle is completed, there are a number of treatment options depending on the needs of the clients and families and treatment recommendations of the team:

  • Contracting for another cycle of comprehensive DBT
  • Stepping down to a 16-week graduate group and continuing individual/family therapy
Graduate group is a teen-only group, designed to help clients generalize their skills into their lives, support them while they do trauma work, and get them closer to their long term goals. The graduate group allows clients who have already learned the skills to practice them in session with other members, process and discuss current struggles, and solidify their understanding of how to integrate DBT in their lives. Clients are allowed to join graduate group only if they have shown progress, have the skills necessary to be in a less structured/processing group, and are actively working towards long term goals.

  • More intensive DBT-informed family therapy
  • Trauma-focused therapy using evidence-based treatments, such as Trauma-Focused Cognitive-Behavioral therapy, and/or Prolonged Exposure.
When clients, families, and therapists have agreed that they have reached their DBT goals, they will graduate from therapy. Some join other therapeutic groups at the Child Outpatient Department, or get support from their environment only.

What the heck is DBT?

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